Do we face a crisis in masculine identity? This books, King Warrior Magician Lover, claims that’s the case. The disintegration of traditional family systems being one reason – but it’s not whole story. There are two other factors.
1. Lack of Initiation
Lack of initiation into manhood leaves modern society to a dominance of Boy psychology.
2. Boy Rule
Patriarchy is the other factor, which is the expression of the immature masculine. What today is called patriarchy is really “Puerarchy” (I.e the rule of boys) – like Lord of the Flies! An expression of boy psychology and the shadow (crazy) side of mature masculinity. The authors see patriarchy as an attack on both masculinity and femininity in its fullest. Boys fear women and boys fear real men.
So how do we deal with this? In lack of rituals we have to each find our own way to Man psychology and that’s the purpose of the book. To help us on our way by showing how to access the mature masculine energies.
Notes & Highlights
📝 For initiation rituals to work there needs to be a death. Effective, transformative initiation slays the ego. This is not the case for our modern initiations (I.e military, criminal gangs).
📝 The Patriarchal male does not welcome full masculine and feminine development. The more beauty, maturity, creativity and generativity we display the more envy, and hate we generate in superiors and peers.
📝 King, Warrior, Magician, Lover are the dominant masculine archetypes. We have all archetypes within us. Like board members we need to make all of them heard.
📝 We can only admire others if we have a sense of our own worthiness.
📝 Kings in the ancient world was often ritually killed when their ability to live out the King archetype began to fail.
📝 If we are not secure enough in our inner structure, we will rely on our performance in the outer world to bolster our self confidence.
You can better assess yourself if you learn about the archetypes and their shadow versions. I have a hard time imagining anyone reading this book without getting an aha- moment for sudden insights, whether it’s about yourself or people around you. Loved it!