In Nonviolent Communication, Marshall Rosenberg, teach you practical skills for getting your needs met in a peaceful way: “Nonviolent communication helps us create a more peaceful state of mind by encouraging us to focus on what we truly wanting rather than what is wrong with ourself and others.”
Mediocre writing and terrible narration aside (for the audio version that is), this gem of a book is likely to change the way speak to yourself and others in a profound way.
Note & Highlights
📝 “When my consciousness is focused on another persons feelings and needs, I see the universality of our experience”.
📝 In cultures that judge, violence is more prevalent.
📝 It’s important that we take responsibility for our feelings, and that we in no way imply that what others say and do makes us feel the way we do.
📝 J. Krishnamurti: “Observing without evaluating is the highest form of human intelligence”.
📝 It might be worth trying to pull out of people what they really mean with what they are saying to find out what needs aren’t met. Your initial interpretation might be wrong! And It’s not our fault, society has not conditioned us to express ourself properly.
📝 When you find you inner critic getting on your case about something you did, then ask yourself – What unmet need of mine is being expressed through these statements?
We need to be precise in our speech.
Non-Violent Communication is the perfect compliment Crucial Conversations. Read them both and master the principles and you will have saved yourself and the people around you from a ton of unnecessary suffering. But it’s easier said than done.
⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️ out of 5
Further Reading – Communication books
If you enjoyed Nonviolent Communication, and are looking for similar books that will boost your communication skills, then check out these books:
How to Win Friends and Influence People – Dale Carnegie
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment – Keller & Levine